But they were premature when they were born. Now they are 15 and a half. No longer premature, but always so . . . . Just recently I have been thinking about how being Shai and Nadav's mother has profoundly affected my life. Almost everything I do, think, plan for, and even write, has to do with their birth and development. Stuck in the past? Maybe a little. Because otherwise, why wouldn't I stop giving their birth weights in the first fifteen seconds of a conversation with a stranger? They are no longer one and two pounds--both of them are well over 50 times their birth weights. See? I did it again. Maybe it's a touch of PTSD. I should add they are doing well--public school, average or above intelligence, fabulous memories (especially when it comes to sports statistics--I can't even imagine where in their brains they store this completely useless information, like the half-time score of a game that took place in 2004 in some obscure European city).
Are there remnants of their prematurity? Yes, many. Maybe I'll blog sometime on this subject. But there's a caveat--we can't blame everything on the prematurity, although we tend to anyway. Like this week they have a new diagnosis from a spinal specialist: Schuurman's Disorder (convex upper back, concave lower back). This is more likely genetic than anything else, but could there be an element that is connected to the prematurity? We'll never know.
Anyway, I have never really tried my hand at fundraising, but living near a big city (Boston) provides multiple opportunities to walk for your cause. Last year I happened to see the march for babies, organized by the March of Dimes, by coincidence--I was fishing with my family on the Charles River--and there they were in their March for Babies t-shirts, finishing up their three-mile walk. "I should be part of this march," I thought. So this year, I decided to form a team. I'm still in the process--right now my only registered team members are myself and my husband. But I've spoken to another couple who has 4-year-old twins born premature, and they're interested. And my good friend and neighbor had a 27-weeker (10 years old today), so I'm working on her to march. My goal is 20 adults marching, many many children, and $1000 in donations from anyone who understands how important this organization is and what it does to prevent premature birth and to support, encourage, and educate parents-to-be and parents who have already given birth.
Here's my personal March of Dimes website. Any contribution will be well-used and much appreciated. http://www.marchforbabies.org/Hollyboker